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My first life blog, about dating and life
Filed under Relationships by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
Because of a resurgence of interest in the golden age of the pulp fiction stories, various publishers such as Galaxy Press, Adventure House, Sanctum Books and Black Dog Books, have taken to task republishing numerous writers from the 30s and 40s and 50s.
The era of the pulps is unique, a renaissance of sorts that produced a rocket ride for many authors and a thrilling array of stories for the eager public. Much like the color wheel has primary colors that produce secondary colors, the pulps developed genres within genres. The detective pulps like “Sherlock Holmes”, is a classic whodunit but the pulps also created hard-boiled detective stories with characters like “Sam Spade”. These characters had to be as tough and unyielding as the gangsters they relentlessly pursued. Within science fiction and fantasy came horror and dark fantasy that focused on the supernatural and weird tales. Westerns, air and sea adventures, mystery and spicy pulps were all published in monthly magazines. The pulps were also the birthplace of our much-loved super heroes!
Old-time live radio shows had much of its material from the golden age of pulp fiction. Families would gather in their daily ritual to enjoy an after dinner story told by charismatic voice actors with creative and unusual sound effects. At the precise moment one would hear the crack of the whip, bells ringing, stomping feet and a multitude of other sounds. It must have absolutely joyous to work on these productions.
With the advent of television and movies, the radio era ended as did the pulps. However, the pulps did not completely die out. The story lines and characters appeared in many TV shows and movies. From the pulps came Zorro, Tarzan, Spider-man and Batman, superman, Hardy Boys and Nancy Drew, to name a few. Many well-known authors broke into the market and were very successful writers, such as Edgar Rice Burroughs, Dashiell Hammett, L. Ron Hubbard, Isaac Asimov, H.P. Lovecraft and many more.
Audiobooks have become a popular medium for recreating the flavor of old-time radio. When you listen to one of these stories, you really get a sense of the epic and far-flung adventures in exotic lands, the super natural settings, damsels in distress and how life may have been viewed back in the 30s, 40s, and 50s. It creates a theater of the mind and unlike watching a movie in the theater or a TV at home; audiobooks can be listened to anywhere, anytime, even while multi-tasking.
Publishers like Galaxy Press have been recreating pulp fiction in print and audiobooks with cinema quality sound effects and talented voice actors which bring you right into the heart of the action. If you have not availed yourself of these great stories, I highly recommend it.
Filed under Readiness by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
Kids grow up so quickly and while we are often left with countless memories, most parents have only a drawer packed with school photos, blurry holiday snaps and the forced grin of the inevitable yearly birthday picture to account for the years gone by. It’s time to stop bemoaning the latest photograph of your thumb obscuring your adorable baby and get on with improving your skills as a photographer.
Why should you bother when the near-by mall has a perfectly good photo studio, you ask? Photographing children poses specific challenges but yields numerous rewards. While it can be frustrating when you miss that spontaneous moment, it is also highly satisfying when you manage to capture the joy in their faces as they dance in the summer’s first sun shower. Capturing the day-to-day moments will provide a treasure trove of memories that you will cherish forever. As well, your own images take on a more personal feel and a more meaningful connection, something that can never be achieved in a generic mall photography studio.
Follow these easy steps and immediately improve your snaps of the kids.
Making The Unusual Usual
Friends with children often say to me “My child always pulls faces for the camera and I can’t get a picture without little Johnny sticking his tongue out and crossing his eyes.” Kids –and many adults as well– are prone to hamming it up for the camera, however, they will be more natural if the camera is a part of their everyday life instead of brought out once or twice a year. By making it a regular part of their lives, it will increase the comfort level and encourage portraits that are more natural. Try bringing out the camera once or twice a week and focusing it on your kids. They will become accustomed to having it around and it will give you a chance to practice your technique, too. And, if they still clown around for the camera, get into the swing of things and enjoy it. Little monkey faces are a part of childhood!
Kids’ Eye View
As adults, we look one another in the eye and photograph our friends at eye level. Do the same for your children. Bend down on one knee or sit on the floor to get a picture that reflects a child’s perspective. To add a little excitement, have fun playing with perspective by shooting the image from the ground up. Lie down on the ground and taking a picture from that viewpoint. Suddenly toddlers become giants and we can witness the world as they see it, by looking up.
Patience, Patience!
Small children have a limit of two or three minutes before they become bored with Mummy or Daddy’s photo session. The urge to run off and play becomes just too much! Don’t force kids to stay in one place for long, unless you like pictures of sullen little faces. If you are taking a formal portraiture-style photo be sure to plan ahead for the best possible results. Check your batteries, make sure there is film in the camera and if you are using a digital camera see that there is space on the memory card. Provide your toddler or small child with a prop, like a ball or a favorite toy to help create a more natural expression, instead of the one that says, “Just hurry up and take my picture, Mom!” Keep it fun and stress-free.
Fill The Frame
Because backgrounds can sometimes be distracting, do not be afraid to move in closer and take a picture of your angel’s face. It creates drama and interest in the photograph and eliminates extra clutter. Unless you are taking a travel photo or an image of the child engaged in a particular activity, feel free to emphasize the most important element of the picture- your child. Use the zoom or macro tool on the camera to get in closer. Pictures of your little one’s hands or feet can also be interesting studies, and one day you may find yourself saying, “I can’t believe they were so tiny!”
Just A Little Off-Centre
Many professional photographers use “The Rule Of Thirds” approach which means that they mentally divide the frame into three sections both vertically and horizontally –like a tic-tac-toe grid– and place the subject of the photo at one of these intersecting points. It helps to create a more dynamic photograph, than one where the subject is smack-dab in the middle. Take note that if your camera is an auto-focus model, you may have to focus first on your subject and then, with the shutter button still half-pressed, recompose the image.
Natural Light Rules!
One of the tricks of the trade in photography is to use morning or late afternoon light. The sunlight at this time is wonderful and helps to produce pictures that are bathed in warmth. Direct light flatters the subject and adds to a more intimate and natural-looking photograph. It also helps to greatly reduce the bane of every parent photographer- red eye!
Experiment with taking advantage of the sunlight pouring through a window, or march the kids outside on a sunny day and photograph them while they are playing tag. To have a well-lit photograph make sure the light is behind you, shining on the subject. To create drama, try using side light for impressive shading. If you try to take a photo with the sunlight behind your children, a technique known as “backlighting”, you will end up with the subject looking like a dark silhouette.
The Last Word
It really is all about fun. View the time you are taking to photograph your children as time to share in their adventures and imaginary play. A frustrated mom directing kids to a more picturesque location and insisting on a smile does not reflect kids’ reality. Pick up the camera only when everyone is relaxed and happy. Finally, don’t expect every photo to be a masterpiece. The truth is that only a few images from each roll are frame-worthy, but the important thing is to keep snapping away to capture the moments that depict their ever-changing lives, in all its unique glory!
Copyright: A. Charlotte Riley 2004
Filed under Online Dating by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
Having a long distance relationship is stressful at times, it requires patience. When you have decided that you’re going to keep it in place and that you’ll be there for each other no matter how far apart you’re, then you should congratulate yourself for being mature enough to handle it and all that comes with it.
There are many turns and twists and you must practice to be patient while you wait for your time to be together once again. You may spend a great deal of time missing your beloved and thinking about what that beloved person is doing each moment of the day. You’ll have to go through moments in your life that are memorable.
You’ll spend time stressing over the list of “what if’s.” Like I said, having a long distance relationship is never an easy task. Remember that if you’re both able to work through the difficult obstacles, then you’ll find the happiness that you deserve. When you’re able to finally reunite, all of the pain and struggle will fade away. The pain that you experienced when you said good bye will always be there as well.
For couples that are involved in long distance relationships, every single minute of time spent with their love is stunning. There are several people that are living wonderful lives together after spending time in long distance relationships. There are certain things that must be considered when building on a healthy long distance relationships. They are:
1. Having Mutual Feelings: The most important thing is that both parties involved in this kind of relationships must have feelings that are mutual. That is the basic requirement. If both parties are not willing to commit completely, then they’re just living a lie and it will not work in the end.
2. Strong Commitment: Love must also be paired with a strong commitment. Both parties must be committed to one another so that love can bond them together of the miles that separate them so that they can work through the obstacles that may arise.
3. Having Great Faith And Trust: They must also have a great deal of faith and trust in the relationship, and this is the most important factor of them all. They may find themselves worrying because they’re so far apart. One partner may begin to be depressed about what the other partner is doing, and this is not healthy. If they can trust each other and if they have faith in their relationship, then the long distance relationships will be worth the effort.
4. Being Mature: Maturity is the last factor to consider. Both partners must be mature to deal with being in long distance relationships. When one or both of the parties are childish in their thoughts and behavior, then the relationships will not work. They’ll simply drive each other crazy.
While long distance relationships have been compared to dreams, those that have gone through it can tell you some of their very own stories. The majority of them have proven that it is possible to overcome the difficult times that come along. As the old phrase goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Filed under Love by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
Are psychic mediums real? Do they really see and speak to spirits, or is that all just New Age nonsense? And if they aren’t really real… and can’t really communicate with the spirit world, why do so many people still believe that they really are? (After all… there can’t be THAT many gullible people in the world, right?)
The truth is, if you’ve done any real research at all on psychic mediumship, the one key takeaway that’s impossible to ignore is the incredible body of evidence that appears to support the idea that SOME mediums are getting information that can’t be explained away as guessing, cold reading, fraud or even ESP. (believe it or not, some skeptics are now trying to argue that Extra Sensory Perception is how many mediums get their information, rather than communicating with spirits… which is a pretty incredible acknowledgment in of itself!)
If you’ve ever had a reading with a genuine medium, there are a few things that you come away with, straight away:
1 – They aren’t guessing, or grabbing at names and initials. A good medium will come out DIRECTLY and offer you specific information that isn’t the product of leading questions or cold reading
2 – A good medium will tell you accurate, verifiable and evidential FACTS that even YOU didn’t know. (this is another validation that tends to discount the idea of mind reading as an explanation of how a medium works… as if you don’t have the information in your “head” already, a medium can’t pick it up by reading your thoughts!)
3 – A good medium gives you HOPE, and inspiration and proof that life continues on after physical death. The best medium readings I have had offered me more REAL evidence of an afterlife, than 35 years of religious blind faith ever could. (even though I STILL trust in and appreciate my religious upbringing, I’m much more likely to count the authentic experiences I’ve had with psychics and mediums as the best personal proof that there is a soul, and a spirit and that we continue on after this life ends)
Are there plenty of mediums who are making it up, guessing or just plain wrong? Of course. But regardless of what the cynics, skeptics and debunkers will tell you, a good medium reading CAN change your life, and make the “impossible” come alive as well! (that’s exactly what happened to me… and my hope is, the very same exciting journey for you!)
Filed under Enhancement by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
Watching a live concert can be an amazing experience. There’s nothing quite like the feeling of watching your favorite band or singer perform live in front of you. It beats watching TV or reading a book. The same goes for watching theater plays and sports.
Being part of these live events can really enliven your life and senses. Attending concerts, Broadway or sporting events for recreational purposes are not only fun but necessary as well as it makes you return to work feeling more refreshed thus making you more productive.
But for you to experience all of these wonderful events, you’re obviously going to need a ticket first. So where can you get cheap concert tickets or discount Broadway tickets you might ask?
Before the invention of the Internet, buying tickets used to be the unpleasant side of watching these live events. People used to line up for hours just to buy concert tickets or discount Broadway tickets at a ticket outlet. It was really hard especially if the event is big and the tickets are sold out before you even had your turn.
The good news is with the help of today’s technology, buying tickets the traditional way is now a thing of the past. No more waiting in line in the rain or under heat of the sun just to buy sports tickets. No more camping outside the ticket booth the night before just to avoid the Broadway ticket being sold out. Thanks to the Internet, you can now buy sold out concert tickets without having to leave your home!
These days, all you will ever need is a computer and an Internet connection and your credit card in buying a ticket.
There are now online ticket outlets that you can easily access so you can be sure that you’ll get your hands on that ticket to whatever event you want to go to.
Buying tickets online is more convenient than the traditional way for a lot of reasons.
First of all, online ticket websites never close. They’re always open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week so you can buy online concert tickets anytime you want.
Second, the transaction is faster. The time it takes to buy tickets is greatly reduced when you buy it online. With just a few clicks of your mouse, the transaction is done.
Another great advantage of online ticket websites is that you can buy your tickets anywhere in the world as long as you have a computer and an internet connection. This is really helpful especially if the event is not in your own country.
Thanks to technology and the internet, the process of buying tickets has evolved in such a way that the whole transaction can now be done in a matter of minutes. This makes it a lot easier for everyone to go to those amazing recreational events and have a good time.
Filed under Domestic Violence by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
Why do women often fail to fix a broken relationship? Is it because they’re not trying enough or that because they’re using the wrong methods? Is there any particular skill that will make the man want to spend more time with you, the woman? Do you want things in your life to change but you are afraid of trying different things lest the relationship may get worse?
Social scientists say that while people want to improve many things in their life, they do not dare and accept to try new methods for fear that their problem may get worse, this is a well known pattern that no one can dismiss, despite the fact that many women struggle continually in their relationships over the years they have developed their own methods to deal with the relationship at its actual level.
For the sake of the argument imagine a woman with an alcoholic husband, this woman over the years has learned to avoid his bad temper by keeping the peace and tolerating his bad behavior, she is more scared of her husband becoming upset then she is of dismissing any change in her life and accepting to remain in such miserable situation, constantly looking for change, although unwilling to hinder the relationship and stand up for her needs. If a woman does not take the risk to go out of her comfort zone and dare to build a healthy relationship that is mutually fulfilling, her situation is not going to get any better.
One of the best method a woman can try to help her man understand her is by setting limits, setting limits or boundaries is very simple to understand it means to make your man understand, through soft talk, that you are not always ready to fulfill his request, if your husband has had a busy day full of events and upon returning home he wanted to share with you the story of every single event, you can gently ask him to give you some time to just collect your thoughts because just at that moment you were emotionally full and not ready to listen to him. You can explain to him in a slower and softer voice that if he will continue to talk, you soon will tune him out and he really does not deserve it, and you do not want to do that.
While this may cause him to feel bothered because he was interrupted, he will be astonished by the way you have talked.The beauty is not only in what you have said but in the way you have said it as well.
Filed under Dating by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
Most musicians have heard of the Musicians Union but what are the benefits? If you are professional musicians then you should definitely become a member. Even if you are an amateur musician you should still consider joining.
The Musicians Union was set up to protect the right of musicians. They negotiate and set standard minimum fees and terms of service for those in the industry. There is also a whole range of advice and guidance available including approved performance and recording contract for things like session work as well as legal advice available. It can be costly having contracts drawn up and professional music industry legal advice is very expensive. Joining the MU give you access to these.
An important benefit is that as a member you are covered for public liability insurance so that if any member of the public is injured then you have protection up to ?10 million in place. Many venues and promoters will ask for evidence of this so you should really have this in place. Joining the MU is an inexpensive way of doing so.
Being a member of the MU also allows you to participate in seminars and industry workshops and is great for networking. You have access to a whole range of music professional working in different disciplines. For a monthly fee you can get all of this and more. There are different levels of membership according to your needs so the MU is affordable to everyone.
In 2011 it is important the musicians are represented in the industry separately to all the major organisations. Individually many musicians don’t have a voice but collectively through the MU they do. Being a member of the MU also shows that you take your career seriously and are committed to being a professional musician – something that potential employers are looking for.
The MU also plays a big part in government policy and is influential in shaping such policies. It allows musicians to stay in touch with issues that affect them and acts as a feedback forum. With fewer live performance venues due to government policy the justification for the MU has never been greater.
The music industry is a great industry to work in but it is after all a business. It is great to know that there is some protection out there for grassroots musicians trying to make a living. For more information visit the Musicians Union website.
Filed under Conflict by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
A wedding is a one-day event, but a marriage is a lifetime commitment; and, it affects everyone in your extended families.
I firmly believe marriage is the most rewarding relationship and the most difficult relationship you will face in your life. Our education system has classes required for many things to prepare us for life after graduation. I have to ask why is there no pre-requisite for marriage. It has always baffled me why couples don’t partake in a private ongoing programs to learn more about one another before they say “I Do” There are three promises that are critical for a marriage to succeed.
3 critical promises for marital success is
1) Promise of Care: promise to meet your partners’ most important emotional needs.
2) Promise of Time: promise to give your partner your undivided attention, at least 15 hours each week
3) Promise of Protection: you promise to avoid being the cause of your partners‘ unhappiness.
These simple statements are loaded with the promise of success. By initially agreeing to these expectations, the stage is set for a loving and fulfilling relationship.
If agreements are established as goals, the couple will be on a path for a marriage with rewards, such as:
Maintaining autonomy
Spirituality
Money
Family/Childcare
Sex
Professions
Living Location
Values
Morals
Hobbies/Fun time
Clarity Problems
It is important that you make a strong commitment to each other to:
Always be honest and straight forward with one another.
Ability to ask for what you want without feeling shame or guilt,
Able to be honest and straight forward,
Ask clarifying questions, make strong requests,
Always provide each other unconditional love
The purpose of your interaction is to hold your focus and stay connected to one another. There should be a very strong bond agreement that gets stronger as the course goes on, but most of all, expect miracles to happen! Expect that you’re getting much more than you asked for! Prepare yourself for getting what you want … because that’s what’ll happen when you apply these principles and methods to your relationship. It’s a beautiful thing! Congratulations on taking a huge step to propel your relationship to an astounding success.
Filed under Commitment by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
Sex, women, men… Sex, orgasms, feelings… Sex, cunnilingus, fellatio…Cuddles!
I have had many men request that I give them more information on exactly what women like in the sex, and feelings department. OK, well I will do what I do best, just simply share what my thoughts on these subjects are. Take them or leave them!
There are so many sites out there that are about dating, relationships, how to score, how to win, and yet men are still looking for answers. Why is that? Maybe it`s because not every answer fits every women! That may be your first hint guys. We are all different, what works on one women will make another women slap your face with disgust. So I would think that a good thing to do is to just chat a bit with the lady and get to know the side of her that she is willing to show you. Hopefully you are smart enough to listen to her, and learn as she talks. Oh, and please save the checking out her boobs or her butt until after you have won the first battle.
I truly believe men are so quickly blinded by our physical protrusions (wink) that they immediately lose their focus at first base. Guys, the body parts are not going anywhere. Have some class and be patient. OK, enough about that very somber subject. I will leave that for another show, as they say.
Women’s feelings, as most men have already experienced are nothing to joke about. Women are sensitive creatures and at the same time very strong. Those two characteristics are nothing short of explosive. The beneficial side to these hard to deal with emotions is that women are just as equally passionate and loving towards the male gender. It is our passion that fuels our desires to be wanted by men. We send off certain signals that entice and attract men. Women know exactly how to win a mans heart. Remember, we are the more sensitive feeling being, of the two genders. We also deal with hormones that turn us into monsters one minute and little tiny babies in another. Our feelings are usually on the top of our skin. That’s why we get hurt so much easier than men. We are child bearers, and that instinctively causes us to be more cautious and rely on our intuitions more than facts. So guys , please forgive us for being the more feeling human. Do not hate us for it, or get frustrated with us, but love us and know that for all the pain we share, we also share twice as much pleasure. That brings me to my next thought!
Sex, that is definitely a good thought not to mention a very fun act between men and women. Women love to be touched, and felt. She wants to feel your hands on her body. It is a very important physical connection that sends messages to her most intimate senses. When a man touches a woman’s body, she feels wanted, she feels lusted, she feels craved, but most of all she feels SEXY! Her self-esteem will ROAR! That my dear sweet men, is exactly the point you want her at. You want her to feel SEXY!
Women do vary with having their breasts played with. This should be done gently at first, so to not turn her off. Some women love a very passionate kiss. A passionate kiss can be an instant orgasm. Women love to feel the sensation of your breathe on their skin. That will surely send her to a new level of sensations. Women have very sensitive backs. A women’s spine will tingle with the slightest touch of your finger tips. Kiss her shoulders, please. Kiss her belly! Kiss her thighs, that is another very sweet spot for women! Kiss her between her legs! She will be warm already, anticipating the sensation of your tongue! It is a very sweet way to taste the women that you desire! She will feel that much more open to you, knowing that you want every part of her body! Women`s bodies have so many sensations that it does take them a bit more time to get them to have an orgasm. The more sensations that you can get a women to feel, the higher she will go into her orgasm zones. Spend time tasting her, never rush her. Also please no not wear out just one spot. Women know there good spots, ask her to tell you what feels good. Be patient though, women do have a harder time talking about sex. Listen to her moans, read her body language, feel her wetness. All these are signs being sent to you. That’s a plus for you also. The more orgasmic a women feels, the more adventurous she will be when it is you she wants to devour.
Remember, to tell her how SEXY she is and how sweet she tastes! Let her know how good she feels to you. Let her know that she is driving you crazy. Women also love to know that for sure. When men are quiet during sex, women feel that they are not exciting or sexy. Women need to hear that men want them and want to please them. When women feel they are wanted, that in turn makes them want to please their man. HMMM! Where do you think my thoughts are going now?
MHM!! Women also love to please their men. They know that men crave fellatio, better know to most as ,”Blow-jobs”. (SMilz) Yes guys we know, we know. Women read more that you can imagine how just how to give their guy the best BJ. There are just as many books out there and sites on the internet about that as there are about how to please a woman. My hint to all the women wondering out there is…PRACTICE!!!! Body language from your man is a must to watch for. Not all men are the same. Some men are more sensitive in some areas that others. Just as women are also on different levels of sensations when it comes to oral sex. Another good tip ladies is your thoughts at the time of the Bj. Think sex. Think wet.Think suction. Think warm. Think HIM!! Love him!! But most of all suck him like you want it. The more he feels that you are just absolutely crazy for it, the more intense it is for him. Do not be afraid of what you are doing. You cannot hurt him unless you bite. That’s a NO! NO!…. DO NOT BITE or SCRAPE! Don`t be afraid to ask him how it feels, or if there is anything more you can do to please him.
Communication, as in anything, is important in sex. It is after all, something that we want to enjoy with one another. Also we learn more about each other through sharing our physical desires. Ladies another very huge turn on for your man is when he sees you feel SEXY! When a man sees his woman sexy, confident and open to him, it will totally send him over the edge of lust for you. So lets get SEXY!
When all is said and done, Cuddles is a biggie. We need to cuddle. It reassures us that everything was perfect. It’s kind of like the icing on the cake. It bonds us on another level of communication. Some women and men have their best conversations when they cuddle. It is almost like a surrender of weapons.
Well these are my thoughts on this. I hope I have not offended anyone. I know this is a different subject than what you are use to reading. But I am human also, just like you. Also I wanted to show a little attitude of a different color for my readers.
Enjoy life and enjoy all of it benefits.
We only get but one shot at it.
Men and Women were made to enjoy each other.
So just do it!
Dorothy
Filed under Affairs by oryganbacprev on 22-11-2011
In this day and age of dating such a question might seem ridiculous to the world, however, in the eyes of single Christian men and women it remains one of many moral dilemmas faced in the dating arena. Whether dating for the first time or you area convinced this is your Christian match, Christian couples want and need to know just how far is far enough when it comes to kissing and other forms of physical intimacy. In search of answers to this question one must seek the bible to see what God has to say about kissing. While the bible does not specifically mention “kissing” it does make reference to various forms of physical intimacy. One of the most intriguing verses I found was Genesis 29:11 Then Jacob kissed Rachel and wept aloud. How profoundly this verse portrays the complexity of desire, passion, and longing. It could be argued that one kiss from Rachel was all it took for Jacob to labor fourteen years for the privilege of having her as his wife.
The bible is very clear with regard to pre-marital sex, adultery, immorality, and lust as seen in 1 Corinthians 6:18 which states, Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. It is not so clear on whether or not the act of kissing alone is considered to be a sexually immoral act.The “kiss” has been used since ancient times for various reasons none of which could be construed as immoral. Some of these non-sexual uses of kissing include social greetings in certain cultures and kissing in the context of respect, loyalty, and honor. Dr. Jim Reeves points out in one of his articles on Christian dating that there is nothing inherently sinful about kissing or cuddling in Christian dating. He goes on to explain that this is largely dependent upon the definition single Christians give to these words. He then goes on to say that each single Christian involved in a dating relationship needs to define what kissing means to them. The importance of this, Dr. Reeves points out, is that for one Christian a kiss may be seen as just a caring gesture while the other Christian might be stimulated into sexual thoughts and responses just by thinking about it.
Perhaps looking at the act of kissing from a purely physiological viewpoint can help shed some light on why kissing often leads to more problems for the single Christian desiring purity in their dating life. Both men and women have erogenous zones – meaning that these areas heightened sexual sensitivity which when touched may result in sexual excitement or stimulation. One of these erogenous zones is the mouth, specifically the lips which are filled with small nerve endings that make them more sensitive than any other part of the face. Once the lips touch in a kiss various neurotransmitters, hormones and endorphins are produced by the brain and body to include serotonin, dopamine, and adrenaline. As a result our mood and feelings are affected, heart rate is increased, blood vessels dilated and hormones that help us regulate feelings of attachment, devotion and affection are released.
Whether you look at kissing from strictly a biblical perspective or take a more physiological standpoint the conclusion one comes to is the same. The kiss is a powerful entity not to be taken lightly by the Christian single. Clear and defined boundaries by both Christian parties in any dating relationship in addition to prayer and conviction are the cornerstones of a successful and pure relationship. By doing these things diligently you are on your way to discovering your Christian match that God intended you to be with.
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